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Help! My Husband is a “6 Seconds Man”, I’m not enjoying in my Marriage




“I’m at a loss. My husband is what you might call a ‘6 seconds man.’ The moment he inserts, he releases. It’s frustrating and disheartening for me because I’m left feeling unsatisfied and yearning for more. When I muster up the courage to voice my concerns, he dismisses them, claiming it’s because I’m ‘too sweet.’ While he may be caring and attentive in other aspects of our relationship, I can’t shake the feeling of dissatisfaction in the bedroom. I need advice on how to navigate this delicate situation.”

First and foremost, let’s acknowledge the courage it takes to open up about such intimate struggles. Sexual compatibility plays a significant role in the overall health and happiness of a marriage, and it’s essential to address concerns and seek solutions together.

To the woman experiencing these challenges, here are some steps suggest you can take:

1. Open and Honest Communication: Sit down with your husband in a non-confrontational manner and express your feelings openly. Share how his premature ejaculation affects your sexual satisfaction and emotional well-being. Encourage him to share his perspective and feelings as well.

2. Seek Professional Help: Premature ejaculation is a common issue that many couples face, and there are medical and therapeutic interventions available. Consider consulting a sex therapist or a healthcare professional specializing in sexual health. They can provide guidance, strategies, and treatment options tailored to your specific situation.

3. Explore Alternative Forms of Intimacy: While penetrative sex may be challenging at the moment, there are numerous other ways to experience intimacy and pleasure together. Experiment with sensual massages, oral sex, mutual masturbation, and other forms of physical connection that prioritize your pleasure and satisfaction.

4. Educate Yourselves: Take the time to learn about premature ejaculation and its potential causes and treatments. Understanding the underlying factors can help both partners approach the issue with empathy and patience.

5. Focus on Connection: Remember that intimacy goes beyond physicality. Cultivate emotional closeness and connection through shared experiences, meaningful conversations, and acts of love and appreciation. Building a strong foundation of trust and communication can enhance your bond and navigate challenges together.

To the husband in this scenario:

Listen to your wife’s concerns with compassion and empathy. Understand that her feelings are valid, and addressing them is essential for the health of your marriage. Be open to seeking help and exploring solutions together, demonstrating your commitment to her satisfaction and happiness.



When I got divorced the youngest was 11 and the oldest 18 but I remained in their lives until today . As far as I am concerned they are representing me and I will be judged by how they turn out – Francis Van-Lare



My advice to those men divorcing their wives and abandoning their children .  The children did not just show up on earth  , you poied their mother who carried them for nine months and birth them .

If you and their mother can no longer be together that is fine as no relationship should forced on anybody but you have to remain in the lives of your children with visits , financial support and vacation with them to bond .

When I got divorced the youngest was 11 and the oldest 18 but I remained in their lives until today . As far as I am concerned they are representing me and I will be judged by how they turn out .
I cannot be traveling or be focused on my business if they have been abandoned at youth because they are girls and they turn out to be something else that willl be requiring my constant attention . 

Stay as friends with their mother too because being an ex wife does not mean she is an eneny because you didn’t poi an eneny to have children.

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Girls at the age of 18-24 years always attract serious men who are fully ready to marry them, but at this age most of our girls/sisters never wish to hear anything about marriage.

1. I’m too young for that.
2. Who cares about marriage.
3. I’m focused on my books.
4. I want to gather some money first.
5. Marriage is full of problems.
These are some of few statements ladies talk of at their youth age.

But these girls will be having serious promiscuous relationship with small boys of their age, because at that age, they always have high rate of boys, guys and men coming for them, but they will prefer to choose those boys rather than the real men who want to marry them. They are still young to marry right, but they are not young to be sleeping with boys.
No problem, God is watching you.

At age of 25-27, parents will start asking them the following questions;
1. How far?
2. Don’t you have any one yet ?
3. Are you not planning to get married ?
4. Are you seeing that all your mates are getting married ?
5. Don’t you know you are getting old?
But mind you, parents only see the outside of their daughters, not knowing there is nothing left inside.

With all these questions by her own parents, she will now be thinking and asking herself things like: My mates are marrying,
1. Does it mean am old enough to marry?
2. Hmmm, how should I go about it?
3. My boyfriends are not serious about asking my hand in marriage.
4. They are not even ready to marry yet.
5. Well, God knows the best. I believe in God.
See oooh…!, she has started putting her blame on God. “God’s time is the best” OK, I agree for argument sake.

At age 27-30 they now start looking for men to marry not boys to sleep and play with again.
They will start looking for serious relationship that will lead to marriage, but unfortunately, at this age of 27-30 not all men will be asking their hand in marriage.

You will see them forcing themselves to marry a man who don’t want to marry them. Please we beg you, leave us alone.
No single man at age 27-30 will like to marry a lady of 30-35. Now you hear the sisters say age does not matter.
My sister, it matters a lot.
Imagine buying a rotten tomato for $10 and your friend buys a fresh one for $7. Yes, that’s how it feels like in marriage too.

Remember you rejected men because you think you were too young. What makes you think your old age does not matter to us?
That’s why some men go back to their villages to find young girl to marry when the city ones are not serious about marriage and those that are serious happen to be old for them.

At age 30-35, her friends will ask her:
1. Why are you not married yet by this age of yours?
2. Is it not getting too late for you ?
You will hear her asking you some silly questions like…
1. Are you God?
2. Or do you want to marry me?
3. Is it a crime to be single at 30 or 35?
4. Did I see a man willing to marry me but I refused?
5. God knows the best for everyone please.
At age 30-35 they will start praying like never before, moving from one church to another. If she’s a Muslim, she will start praying night prayers, fasting and dressing modestly.
If you ask her for dating, she would burst out to say:
1. My brother, I’m not like them.
2. Am looking for a serious man, a husband not dating.
3. If you truly love me go and see my parents for marriage.
4. I can’t do anything with you without my parents concern.

Dear parents, they have started knowing your worth. When she was 18-24, she was doing everything without considering you as parents.

You don’t expect a young man of 27-30 to marry you of 30-35 as his house wife when there are younger pretty girls out there.
Even if he chooses to ignore your age and marry you, his family and friends will discriminate you.
Men that will be interested to marry you will be of 45 yrs and above and mind you, those men are married with kids except you wanna be second or third wife.

Everything in life has its own season and time.
There’s no lady at age 30-35 seeking for marriage who haven’t been approached during 18-24. But by then, they were busily jumping from clubs/parties to hotel rooms looking for FUN not MARRIAGE.

Not everything is about prayer. God who created you has made a plan for you. But when you change the plan or miss the road, please don’t disturb the peace of God. Because, He will be busy planning for your younger sister.

Think about this when you have time.

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From Failed Marriage to Relationship Guru: The Transformation of Dr. Olumide Emmanuel




Dr. Olumide Emmanuel’s journey from a failed marriage to becoming a beacon of hope and guidance for singles navigating the complexities of relationships is nothing short of inspiring. Despite experiencing the pain of marital dissolution, Dr. Olumide found purpose in his pain and embarked on a mission to help others avoid similar pitfalls.

Reflecting on the factors that contributed to the breakdown of his marriage, Dr. Olumide recognized the role of spirituality in clouding his judgment when it came to making informed relationship choices. Armed with this insight, he dedicated himself to educating singles on the importance of making logical and informed decisions in their pursuit of love and companionship.

Through his teachings on relationship topics, Dr. Olumide has become a source of wisdom and inspiration for countless individuals seeking guidance in matters of the heart. His message resonates deeply with those who have experienced the pain of failed relationships, offering them hope and practical advice for building healthier connections in the future.

One such individual who found solace and guidance in Dr. Olumide’s teachings is the founder of the popular Facebook page, Evangelist Edo Baba. Having gone through his own marital challenges, Evangelist Edo Baba was inspired to create a platform where individuals could share their experiences and receive support from like-minded individuals.

Despite facing challenges such as shadow banning and opposition from detractors, Evangelist Edo Baba remained steadfast in his mission to provide a safe space for individuals to express their frustrations and seek guidance. With a growing following and a determination to expand his reach to other social media platforms, Evangelist Edo Baba is poised to make an even greater impact in the lives of those grappling with relationship issues.

As Dr. Olumide Emmanuel and Evangelist Edo Baba continue to spread their message of hope and empowerment, they serve as shining examples of resilience, transformation, and the power of using personal experiences to uplift and inspire others.

Through their efforts, countless individuals are finding the strength to heal from past wounds and embrace the possibility of a brighter future in love and relationships.

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