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Navigating Boundaries and Respecting Roles in Parenting Partnerships
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In the intricate tapestry of family life, one of the most critical elements is the partnership between parents. Navigating the delicate balance of responsibilities and boundaries can sometimes become a challenge, as witnessed in a recent incident where a wife insulted her husband for bathing their 16-year-old daughter. This situation prompts us to reflect on the dynamics of parenting partnerships and the importance of communication and respect in fostering a healthy family environment.
Now let’s look at a father, caring for his teenage daughter by giving her a bath, an act of parental responsibility that seems entirely reasonable. However, the harmony within this family was disrupted when the mother, instead of appreciating her husband’s involvement, chose to insult him. This incident raises questions about societal norms, gender roles, and the expectations placed on parents.
Opinions and perspectives of understanding the above
1. Traditional Gender Roles:
The incident may have been fueled by deep-seated societal expectations regarding gender roles. Traditionally, certain responsibilities like bathing children might be seen as the mother’s domain. However, it’s crucial to recognize that parenting should be a shared responsibility where both partners actively contribute to the well-being of their children.
2. Communication Breakdown:
A significant factor in this incident may be a lack of communication between the spouses. It is essential for couples to openly discuss their expectations and assumptions about parenting roles. Establishing a clear line of communication can prevent misunderstandings and help both parents feel valued and respected in their contributions.
3. Modern Parenting Realities:
In today’s world, parenting roles are evolving, and families are breaking away from traditional norms. Modern parents often strive for equal involvement in raising their children. Bathing a teenager, in this context, is merely an act of caregiving rather than a gender-specific task.
4. Respecting Individual Strengths:
Every parent brings unique strengths to the table. Instead of adhering strictly to predefined roles, couples should recognize and appreciate each other’s abilities. If a father is comfortable and capable of taking care of certain aspects of parenting, it should be encouraged rather than criticized.
5. Teenagers and Autonomy:
As children grow older, their need for autonomy increases. Teenagers, in particular, may have their preferences regarding personal care. In this light, it is crucial for parents to adapt to their children’s changing needs and support them in developing independence.
The incident of a wife insulting her husband for bathing their 16-year-old daughter is a poignant reminder of the ongoing societal shift in parenting dynamics. Embracing modern perspectives on shared responsibilities, effective communication, and mutual respect can help families navigate these challenges successfully. Ultimately, the goal is to create a nurturing environment where both parents actively contribute to the growth and well-being of their children.
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Why Former President Edgar Lungu Deserves No Second Chance
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Former Zambian President Edgar Lungu has recently made a plea to the Zambian people for a second chance in the 2026 elections, claiming that he is now wiser and ready to rectify the mistakes of the past. However, Zambians and Africans should critically evaluate his past tenure before considering his bid for re-election. The failures and controversies that marked Lungu’s presidency should serve as a cautionary tale against granting him another term in office.
Edgar Lungu’s presidency, from 2015 to 2021, was marred by numerous issues, chief among them being rampant corruption. Under his administration, allegations of mismanagement of public funds and resources were rampant. Reports of corruption involving government officials and the mishandling of national resources were frequent, undermining public trust in the government. The infamous “Fire Truck Scandal,” where the government purchased 42 fire trucks at an exorbitant price, is just one example of the questionable financial decisions made during his tenure. These incidents of corruption eroded public confidence and diverted much-needed resources away from essential services and development projects.
Lungu’s tenure was also characterized by the rise of “caderism,” where political cadres or supporters engaged in violence and intimidation against opposition parties and citizens. This culture of violence and intimidation stifled democratic processes and created an atmosphere of fear and instability. The politicization of the police force and other state institutions further exacerbated the situation, leading to a compromised rule of law and justice system. Such actions not only undermined democracy but also hindered Zambia’s progress and development.
During Lungu’s presidency, Zambia’s economy faced significant challenges. Despite being one of Africa’s most promising economies, Zambia experienced high levels of debt, inflation, and unemployment under Lungu’s watch. The national debt ballooned to unsustainable levels, leading to economic instability and hardship for ordinary Zambians. The failure to effectively manage the economy and implement necessary reforms contributed to a decline in living standards and increased poverty.
In contrast, the current President, Hakainde Hichilema, has shown a commitment to addressing the issues that plagued Lungu’s administration. Since taking office in 2021, Hichilema has focused on economic reform, anti-corruption measures, and improving governance. His administration has made strides in restoring the rule of law, promoting transparency, and reviving the economy. Under Hichilema’s leadership, Zambia has seen renewed hope for economic recovery and development.
The plea from former President Edgar Lungu for a second chance in 2026 should be met with critical scrutiny by Zambians and Africans at large. His previous tenure was marked by corruption, mismanagement, and political violence, which significantly hindered Zambia’s progress. Supporting President Hakainde Hichilema, who is actively working to rectify these issues and lead Zambia towards a brighter future, is the more prudent choice. Zambians should look forward, not backward, and continue to support leaders who prioritize transparency, accountability, and development.
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EKWENSU IS NOT THE SATAN OF CHRISTIANITY: A DEEPER UNDERSTANDING
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It is important to address a common misconception regarding the Igbo interpretation of Ekwensu. While many of us grew up associating Ekwensu with the Christian Satan, it is vital to delve deeper and gain a more insightful understanding.
As I embarked on a journey to explore African spirituality and culture, I became fascinated by the being known as Ekwensu, who had instilled fear in us as children and was often affiliated with hell.
To my astonishment, extensive research revealed that Ekwensu is not the Satan or Devil of Christianity. However, I acknowledge that many of us are already acquainted with this fact. Ekwensu is actually a trickster god within Igbo mythology, serving as the Divine Principle of bargains. Known for his cunning in trade and negotiations, he is often called upon for guidance in challenging mercantile situations. Furthermore, he embodies the forces of chaos and change, which in his more fierce aspects, granted him the title of the god of War and Victory, ruling over the tumultuous powers of nature. It is important to note that his association with violence stems from inciting individuals to perform violent acts. Consequently, after a period of war and the establishment of peace, Ekwensu’s chaotic nature is often banished from the people to prevent further conflicts.
One must recognize that Ekwensu served as a testing force or counterbalance to Chukwu, the benevolent God. This highlights the significance of balance in nature, a concept deeply understood by our ancestors. Both Ekwensu and Chukwu symbolize divine principles residing within us.
Contrary to popular belief, Igbo spirituality does not encompass the existence of a physical devil or god. Igbo deities are principles that manifest within us and the universe, harmonizing our higher and lower selves. It is the clash between good and evil that occurs within our own minds. Striving to embrace goodness, enables us to conquer the inclination to harm others.
However, the presence of both energies is necessary in our lives. When engaging in war, punishing offenders, or seeking retribution, we activate the Ekwensu energy. Therefore, when people commit wrongdoing, attributing it solely to the work of the Devil or Satan is misguided. Instead, they have given in to their lower selves (Ekwensu energy) when it was not intended to be utilized. Ultimately, this battle occurs within our minds. When we pass on and return to the realm of the Ancestor-Gods, we will be held accountable for how we harnessed our positive and negative energies bestowed upon us by Chukwu, the Feminine and Masculine Divine Life Force upon our birth.
The concept of Divine Judgement predates the introduction of Abrahamic religions, which presented a distorted version of Igbo spirituality. It is important to note that during the advent of Christianity, when colonialism and missionary activities thrived, deities such as Seth, Èsù, and Ekwensu were transformed into Christian Satan figures due to their respective attributes.
It is crucial to acknowledge that Ekwensu is not confined to hell, did not instigate a war in heaven, and did not deceive mythical Adam and Eve with a forbidden fruit.
When European influences established Christianity in Africa, they encountered one predicament: the absence of the Devil in the African spiritual pantheon. Consequently, they fashioned the devil from Igbo gods. It is worth mentioning that there are people and villages in Igboland that bear the name Ekwensu, such as Obiekwensu, the community of Senator Enyinnaya Abaribe, Lekwensu in Umueneochi LGA (Abia state), and Umunkwensu in Enugu State. Cyprian Ekwensi, a renowned writer, also shares a dialectical variation of the name Ekwensu. Ultimately, these instances showcase the commonality and linguistic variations of the term Ekwensu, symbolizing the god of trade and trickster.
It is unjust for Africans to equate our spiritual system with the fear-based ideologies of the Abrahamic religions, rooted in the notion of hell. Igbo gods represent divine principles residing within us, elevating us to godlike beings in human form, intricately connected to the Universe, and manifesting the power of Divinity on Earth. Satan is not Ekwensu; he is the Devil. Nevertheless, if one asserts that the Igbo name for Devil is Ekwensu, it is essential to also disclose Jesus’ Igbo name.
Let us embrace a deeper understanding of Igbo spirituality and honour the rich tapestry of our ancestral traditions.
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JUNIOR POPE – NIGERIA HAPPENED TO HIM!: No Pappy water or Mammy water killed this fine young man! Nobody jazzed him! He didn’t need to pour Fanta or any soda into the river before the ill-fated trip – Eke O Ako
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I had never heard of him until yesterday. It appears that he was a popular movie star.
No Pappy water or Mammy water killed this fine young man! Nobody jazzed him! He didn’t need to pour Fanta or any soda into the river before the ill-fated trip. The accident was properly prepared for, even before he stepped into the boat..
Nigeria simply happened to him.
Another avoidable death!
Accidents happen when several accident prevention barriers are broken.
1. Imagine where our safety laws were being enforced! Boat operators would never have been allowed to operate without safety training, meeting safety requirements; boat drivers would have been adequately trained; boats would have had safety facilities; passengers would have been provided with life jackets, and premobilisation inductions before every trip.
2. Imagine how many people would have been employed in that sector!
3. Imagine where we had lifeguards! They would have been at the scene of the accident before you blink an eye! He and other victims would have been rescued.
4. Imagine where the movie industry was strictly being regulated! They would have ensured that all movie production complied with all safety laws.
5. Imagine where his death would have had consequences on those that sanctioned an unsafe movie operation, and the owners of the boat & their driver!
6. Imagine where he took personal responsibility for his own safety. He wouldn’t have boarded that boat. He may have asked for a life jacket! He may have rejected that role, but he had mouths to feed!
7. Imagine where citizens like him and you were busy asking for good governance, you may have been employed in that sector to regulate and enforce our maritime laws.
8. Imagine where you were not defending your leaders and abusing those asking for you to be treated as human beings, they would have ensured that laws were enforced and that consequences are imposed.
After the reggae play the blues…, his death will go just like many others, we move on, waiting for the next, and we converge on social media to blame Mammy water!
I’m sure that many of you will abuse me and ask me to return to Nigeria to contest elections as President!
I hope we learn!