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The desire to take matters into your hands to change your spouse is not only wrong, but it is also energy wasted on the wrong front.

How can I change my spouse? I hear this question almost daily. Yes, there may be a lot in your spouse’s character that needs to be changed. But the business of changing hearts is not ours but God’s. Only God through the power and influence of the Holy Spirit can change your spouse’s heart or character. The desire to take matters into your hands to change your spouse is not only wrong, but it is also energy wasted on the wrong front. Most people, even those that are ready to change will resist any change that is forced upon them by someone else, even if the change would benefit them. Therefore spend more time examining yourself and changing yourself. Regardless of how good you think you are, there is always room for improvement. You can always become a better parent, a better Christian, or a better citizen. When you change yourself and become a better person, it creates a conducive environment for your spouse to change. Your spouse will notice your positive change and he or she will be rebuked by it and be motivated to change. God uses the power of our positive influence to change others around us. Your duty is not to light other people’s candles, but to “…let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” (Matthew 5:16)