” The hardest decision I made as a very beautiful, tall, curvy, and loaded lady is to be sexually pure until marriage. My parents would always preach on keeping yourself until marriage but never really told me how tough it is and the reality surrounding it.

My dad died at age 15 and from then, it was as if whistle was blown for all men around me. From our gateman to my Sunday school teacher, my seniors in school and our neighbors. I thought it was just because I was blessed beautifully by God but with time I found out that even the not so beautiful ones were going through same.

Sometimes I would tell my mom and she would confront them and it will end in a huge fight and even create more attention that I didn’t want so I stopped telling her. There was this married man that lives in our street and was always pestering me whenever he saw me coming back or going to school.

It gradually turned to harassment and I reported him to my landlord. Our landlord told his wife about it, I don’t know what else happened but that never never attempted harassing me again.

When I entered university, that was when the struggle went over the roof. Being a very jovial, cheerful and brilliant girl, I caught attention of so many including my lecturers. At first, I felt it was a good thing but with time it became a problem for me.

Some lecturers that used to admire me for being so brilliant in class, began to make advances at me and few threatened to always fail me in their courses. As if that wasn’t enough, some of my female friends distanced themselves from me because I wasn’t in their league.

Even the genuine make friends I had in school, at some point started developing feelings for me and it ended up spoiling the good friendship we had. It was emotionally hard for me, sometimes I wished to do otherwise since my mates are doing it comfortably.

At some point, I felt I was c*ur*sed because it wasn’t making sense why 98% men that come around me all want just one thing I wasn’t ready to give. I was so young and didn’t want to ruin my future as my mom would term it, so I distanced myself carefully from anything that would lead me into it.

I gradually turned an introvert, stopped engaging in much social activities, stopped going for workout sessions etc. After my final papers as a final year student, I needed to do my clearance and my mom was financially incapable at that moment.

I approached one of my male friends from the gym who claimed to have good intentions for me. He is a police man and also into politics and was in his late 30s. He is financially loaded from all indications so I pleaded with him to lend me some money for my clearance so I can go for NYSC with my mates.

He agreed to give me the money and told me not to bother paying back but on the day he asked me to come and have the money, he wanted to have his way with me. He started begging me to give him a chance, he wants me to have a baby for him so his baby will have my gene etc.

I was so dissapointed because I rated him so high but that offer was so hard for me to decline. I followed him to his hotel room and just as I was about to enter the room, my mom’s call came in. I didn’t pick the call but it destabilized me so I turned from there and went home.

I decided to just hope on God to send help my way and he did through a lady I met in a salon that was so attracted to me and wanted to introduce me to her brother for marriage. After much persuasion whenever she sees me, I accepted and she linked me up with her brother.

Her brother was living abroad, he’s a nice person just like his sister. He asked about my school and I told him everything. He sent me 500k through his sister and that’s how I did my clearance without much stress.

We were compatible to a good extent until we found out that we weren’t medically compatible. We are both AS genotypes and we clearly couldn’t think of getting married. I was a sad one for us as we decided to just remain friends.

I informed his sister about it and she invited me to her house for the first time. I went and to my greatest surprise, I saw her wedding pictures in her parlor and her husband is the police guy that I begged to lend me money.

I was so shocked because that guy denied and even swore to me that he wasn’t married. He’s so young, you wouldn’t doubt him. I told that woman that I know her husband from the gym but I didn’t go further.

Turned out they’ve been married for 9 years without a child, little wonder he was begging me to have a child for him. I felt so much pity for that woman but was glad I never had anything intimate with her husband, it would have been a total mess.

The woman is a very beautiful and kind lady, she just loved everything about me. She treated me very nicely and was sad things didn’t work out for I and her brother. I guess that was God’s plan.

I graduated with a first class at the age of 21 and on my induction day, I met my husband. It was love at first sight and in 5 months time, we fixed our wedding. It was during our wedding plans that we found out that most of his friends that would be his groomsmen knew me.

I’ve met them one way or the other and 3 of them wanted be intimate with me and I’m glad I didn’t. It was a huge coincidence, the world is a very small place indeed. 50% of my husband’s friends(male and female)knew me and all had good things to say about me.

I now began to imagine how it would have turned out of any of them were intimate with me and my husband got to find out. He may not react to it but I would never feel free whenever I see them and I would want that.

My husband didn’t love me or marry me because of my sexual purity, infact he never knew I was pure because I lied to him that I was badly heartbroken by the first man I loved and it prompted my decision to never be intimate again till marriage and he believed it.

He loved me because aside being decent, I am a sincere being to the least. I am very kind and humane, very intelligent and respectful as well. Because my mom would always say that it’s better to marry a kind wh*ore than to marry a wicked vi*rgin and I made sure I built myself positively to deserve a good husband.

My husband is an angel deserving of a good woman and God blessed him with me. I’m a mother now and I’m raising my children to be self disciplined just the way my parents taught me because no matter how the present generation makes it look outdated, it remains a flex.

I do not judge those who aren’t able to achieve sexual purity because it is HARD but if you can, it’s worth it. It doesn’t just boost your confidence as a woman, it keeps you spiritually unsaturated because s*ex is spiritual than we know.”