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HOW TO CALM YOUR MAN’S MIND DOWN ESPECIALLY AFTER STRESSFUL DAY AT WORK
1. MAKE LOVE TO HIM
Sex has a way of relaxing a man. You will change his mood when you make love to him, especially if you are the one who seduces him and initiates it
2. DON’T MAKE THE HOME A WARZONE
If coming home to you is coming home to yet another argument and fight where you explode and turn everything into an issue, he will dread coming home and it hurts when the home is a place to run away from, not to run to
3. ASK HIM HOW HE IS
Most women want their man to ask them “How was your day?”, “How did you sleep?” “How are you?” yet they rarely ask the husband these. If these questions make you feel cared for, your man also wants to feel cared for
4. ORGANIZE HIS LIFE
A lot of men can be disorganized, especially when they are going through a lot in life or have a lot on their minds. This chaos in their system, dressing, schedule, or environment can lead to more unease in their mind. When you help him clear the clutter and attend to some of his needs without him asking, he will think better
5. DON’T ATTACK HIS MAN CAVE
Most have a man cave. This is an activity they do or a place they go to perhaps a room; maybe to play a game, watch TV, meditate and think, write, read, create, work out or just be. Don’t attack this, just agree with him on how he can balance his time so that he doesn’t spend too many hours in his man cave
6. PRAY FOR HIM
You are the one who knows best his potential, struggles, battles, and questions; commit him to prayer. Let him hear you pray for him
7. HELP HIM OUT FINANCIALLY
A lot of men are going through stress due to finances. Help him, by not putting pressure on him to give the family a lifestyle he can’t afford at present, by helping to pay some of the bills, by helping him manage finances better, by saving and seeking long-term investments, and by stepping up, especially when he has been fired or going through business losses
8. AFFIRM HIM
A man can get tired, a man can go through burnout,
DON’T GIVE YOUR HUSBAND BLUE BALLS
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1. Don’t seduce your husband and leave him hanging
2. Don’t be all sexy, working in the home, no bra, nipples showing, butt popping as you clean; then look at him funny when he touches you because your view turns him on
3. Don’t cuddle up with your husband, teasing him, playing with his chest and commando; then tell him no love making when he wants to go all the way
4. Don’t tell him “I am not in the mood tonight, I am tired, my head is paining. Tomorrow morning we will make love” then tomorrow morning you act like you forgot. Keep your promise
5. Don’t text him and flirt with him during the day, making him look forward to good times with you; then when he comes you act as if those sexy conversations never happened
6. Don’t walk out of the shower when your horny husband decides to join you naked for some steamy love making
7. Don’t wear a sexy lingerie to bed then expect every night to have conversations of bills, children and in-laws. He sees your sexy body, he struggles to concentrate
8. Don’t sleep next to him popping your butt and he can literally have a good view of you and he wants to do things to sexy you only for you to look at him as if he is bothering you
9. Don’t play around with his penis, get him hard then that is the time you are remembering to call your mom or to go hang the clothes
10. Don’t tell him “I am on my periods. When it is over, you can have me all you want” then after your periods you build The Great Wall of China between you and him
This is torture. Sexual intimacy is dear to your husband. You should be grateful you have a husband who desires you and who can’t keep his hands off you. Once that desire is gone, it is hard to get it back. A sexually rejected man might eventually give up making advances.
An unused erection is painfu especially when you have a wife whom you treat right but she just turns you down. Don’t give him blue balls, milk him good.
Please bless
When some Women turn 40 or 50 years, something major shifts in their personality.
They become bolder, more rebellious, more religious, more focused, more opinionated and more emphatic about what they want.
Don’t be surprised when a previously obedient and submissive Woman on turning 40/50 changes completely.
Most especially when she had given birth to Children.
At this age, she may not go with the flow anymore, she may begin to ask some questions :
– Is sex food?
– Query some of your instructions
– Even the way you behave.
She will also become more outspoken and will not be afraid to speak her mind.
If care is not taken, you may have to do for yourself :
– Dry cleaning
– Preparing food to eat
Because it might take her more time before she responds to your request.
There is something definitely special about turning 40/50 for Women.
If she has never challenged or questioned your instructions, get ready to be shocked by her boldness and confrontational attitude.
The only way to avoid total breakdown of Peace and Harmony in the home is for Men to become fair, objective and reasonable in their approaches to issues at home and/or at work.
Men should bear in mind that at this age, Women also harbour lots of regrets about the decisions they have made in life so far … Their Husbands may be one of them!
A woman at this age is a better Judge of character and will evaluate a Man using very different & weird parameters.
Men must start on time to prepare for this phase in the lives of their Wives/Partners/Bosses/Subordinates.
What you put in is what you get!
If you have treated her fairly, then you don’t have anything to worry about.
She will begin to appreciate you better if for any reason she didn’t do so in the past.
On the contrary if you haven’t been nice to her, fasten your seatbelt, the ride is about to get pretty bumpy.
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My ex-husband and I dated for 6 years. We where best of friends.I waited until he completed college and started work. My family and his family then met.We got married and had a son
A DIVORCED SINGLE MOTHER WROTE:
I am writing to you in order to make someone understand that it’s good to appreciate our partners despite their flaws.
I am 32 years of age.
My ex-husband and I dated for 6 years. We where best of friends.I waited until he completed college and started work. My family and his family then met.We got married and had a son. (7 years old now).
My husband was short tempered at times but our problems started when I wanted to make him feel he couldn’t control me.
Every time we argued, I would pack my bags, go to my family and explain. My sisters would phone my husband and shout at him.
If he was controlling me I would always dare him that if he wished, he could divorce me. I never wanted divorce. I just had pride and I never wanted to look like a loose woman in his eyes.
One day I pushed him so hard that for the first time he beat me and locked me outside. I went to my family, my family took him to the police, every time I looked like I was being abused!
But to be honest, I used to abuse my husband emotionally. He was arrested and detained. I was asked by his family to withdraw the case. I felt that what I was doing was wrong.
My husband was never a violent man, he did what he did because I pushed him to the wall of which he openly knelt down and apologized.
I withdrew the charge, and we reconciled. After three months, I packed my bags after a small issue and he remained alone. After two days, I
received a call that he was in the hospital.
My family told me that I shouldn’t go there because it would look like I was begging him and my sisters believed he was feigning the illness.
All this time, people felt sorry for me like I was the one being abused.He spent a week in the hospital, after he came out, I just received a divorce summon.
I wanted to say no to divorce, but because I felt this pride, I wanted him to change his mind and beg me. I called him and said he would get the divorce because I lived like I was in hell.
